Their Voices: Advice for Foster Parents from Former Foster Youth
Individuals can go through endless training, classes and informational sessions to learn how to be the best foster parent possible. But what if they could hear directly from former foster youth about what they wish they had while in the system? Wouldn’t that be empowering and effective?
That’s exactly what happened during “Their Voices: Foster Care Awareness Month Panel & Discussion” hosted by Wellpoint Care Network.
With current and prospective foster parents in the audience, six members of the Youth Transitioning to Adulthood program and Youth Advisory Council got to share their personal stories and advice.
“Treat foster kids like you would treat your own kids,” said Johnny Spingola. “Don’t make them feel different. Be that parental figure in their life, because that’s what they are missing.”
“Study different cultures,” added Iasia Sawyer. “You’re not always going to get a child from the same background as you. We are still unique individuals and all different.”
Another common theme was being someone children in your home can trust and confide in.
“A lot of negative situations happen because kids’ emotions are not regulated, they are just always angry,” said Isaiah Reynolds. “Foster kids need emotional support. They need someone they can turn to, otherwise they will look for that support in the wrong places.”
“Often times in foster care, you feel trapped, lost and broken,” added Angel Shelton. “Let youth know that they are worthy and worth being here. That they are more than a label. A lot of kids don’t know how to find mental health support and when they do, they don’t know how to talk to that support because they’ve never had that in their life. Show them that you are different. Be that difference in their life.”
A powerful moment came when the former foster youth were asked what they would say to any children currently in foster care.
“You’re not just a number,” said Steven Manley. “You mean something to the world. You can still grow to be whatever you dream or desire. You are not less than any other child in your class or school just because of your home or living situation.”
“You deserve to have the same opportunities as every other child,” added Spingola. “Use your voice, because you have one. Use it to demand more every day. It will get better, as long as you choose not to give up.”
“It’s ok to ask for help,” added Sawyer. “You are not a burden or a problem.”
Want to make a difference in a child’s life? Wellpoint Care Network is always looking for individuals and families from all backgrounds, cultures, neighborhoods and family structures to represent the diverse range of children who need a foster home. Learn more about our YTA program or how you can become a foster parent today.
